Many of us look at our life, fairly convinced that if a few aspects were better, we’d be much happier.
If I had a better job, I would worry less about money and be happier.
If my partner was more understanding, I would be happier
If I had more money, I could look prettier.
Sometimes it also takes the form of wishing for some other aspect of someone else’s life.
If I had job, like Tom’s, I would worry less about money and be happier.
If my partner was more understanding, like Mary, I would be happier
If I had more money, like Grace who has a trust fund, I could look prettier.
We live with these thoughts on a regular basis. Maybe not daily.
But every week, every month, they’re sitting there with as as our regular companions.
Assuring us how much better and happier our life would be if only a few aspects would be better.
Days are spent trying to make it better, wondering how you are going to get through the next day or week.
The dissatisfaction piles up to a sharp climax where you decide you’ve had enough.
You need a change. It’s going to be better.
Maybe it’s a revelation in your life. or maybe an impulse. Perhaps a mid life crisis.
It’s impossible to know which it truly is.
You make some HUGE decision in your life that drastically alters your life. You believe this will lead you to happiness.
You change your job from something you have been grinding at to pay the bills to something you love.
Which means you have to start from scratch. You swear you will be happier doing what you love even if it pays much less.
You move to a place you’ve always dreamt about living in.
Convinced life will be better and you will be happier.
You embark on that journey, overflowing with conviction you are right. You’ve made a big, brave move.
You will be happier, life will be better.
And then you realize as you walk on that journey, it’s not a smooth sailing path to the better life and happiness you thought.
There are new problems. Maybe even the old problems linger, resurface.
There are downsides you didn’t predict before.
You’ve taken this huge step towards your dream life, what you always thought would make you happier.
Only to find out, this direction has it’s problems as well.
What we think our happier life would be, someone else’s picture perfect life we wish we could have
It’s greener and sparkling with beauty from a distance.
Up close and threading on it, you realize it’s not a smooth road.
It has its own problems, different ones perhaps, but problems anyway.
It doesn’t necessarily solve the old problems.
After making a huge sharp turn in your life, you realize much of life and decisions you make, is about trade offs.
The sign you put up that read “This way to happier” bears its own course and trials.
You will never know until you try.
But you may try and realize the hike to Happier lets you down.
Have you made a big decision in your life that would make you happier? Share your story and journey!
Read about Anna’s story of packing up her life and moving countries on the road to Happier
You can read more about her story at http://www.kansies.com/